Not a 'good' house wife.

The other day I was meeting with some other mothers in a new mums coffee group I'm in. Our babies are all about the same age, and we were discussing naps and how most of the babies in our group don't nap much during the day. Well I was saying my little guy usually has 3 to 4 hours of napping durning the day (usually 2 two hour blocks). One of the women commented "You must get lots of housework done then." At that moment I felt really out of the loop, not connected with these women, they made me feel young and almost irresponsible. I don't hold housework very high in my priorities. Usually when Gabe is sleeping that is when I relax, play on the computer ect. Now I'm trying to work myself up to hosting this coffee group in my unclean house. I mean it is pretty bad, I don't think we have vacuumed in like a month at least, I try and do the dishes once a day but that is really all I do except laundry, so the bathroom is in a pretty bad shape as well as the kitchen floor. I've never been a very tidy person in the first place, just ask my parents, they always said that tidyness would come in time, I just don't know if that day will ever come.
The sad part is I really should vacuum and dust more as Adam's allergies act up so much more when the house gets this bad. He has been very asthmatic over the last week and I keep thinking that if I just vacuumed it would probably help so much.
So the question is, how important is a tidy house? When it dirty too dirty? At what point will I start getting on top of this housework or at least care enough to make attempts as cleaning? This is why when people ask me how much harder it is to have a child and be a stay at home mum I get confused, it's because I now have so much more time on my hands. I used to have to work 40 hours a week, now I just am on call and half of the work is just fun, playing with Gabe. I guess it helps that he is a really easy baby, of course there are always really hard days but usually they are few and far between (to those non-mothers that would be like 1 a week ;-)).
Anyway that is my rant for the day back to my games... Maybe I'll do some dishes when Gabe wakes up, but while he is asleep, you will find me with my feet up, relaxing, I think mothers should do this more often and let the housework slide some (well unless your one of those people who can't relax when there are things that need to be done).

The other day I made the most amazing sugar cookies. They probably weren't really that amazing except that I'm still astounded by my ability to bake and cook things from scratch. I've grown up in a culture where everything is made easy. Box mixes for cookies or even tubes of already made cookie dough and TV dinners. However upon moving to a foreign country where some things are unavailable for purchase, such as pumpkin pies or pumkin pie filling and corn bread mix (two things I love and miss). I've had to learn to make these myself by finding the raw ingredients and making them from scratch. Can you believe most New Zealanders have not had pumkin pie or corn bread? Most of them would think pumpkin pie would be gross as pumpkin here is a savory squash used to soups and roast dinners.

This was hand-written on 2 March 2010

I guess blogging can be a lot like journaling. You write what you are thinking and feeling. The question is whether people want to read about what you are thinking and feeling. I could (and probably will) write about mundane everyday things. However people can relate to those ordinary things so maybe they would enjoy reading and/or feel more connected to the world by reading my blog?
I'm kind of hoping that by writing more I will become a better writer and be able to write more interesting things for people to read, but for now you are stuck with my day to day ramblings (no one is currently reading this anyway).
I think one of the things I would enjoy about having a blog versus a journal would be the ability for people to comment on my rambling. I would love for discussions to take place and for my blog to be a place where people get and exchange ideas.

Blogging

Well being a stay at home mum is a totally new experience for me and since I seem to have some free time I thought I might try my hand at some blogging. My son Gabriel or Gabe for short is just turning 4 months this week. He has been especially cranky today. I find when he starts crying or even just fussing I get this pain in my back... anyone else experience this?

Sounds like he might be waking up from his nap just now... Will have to resume this blog later.