Saturday, March 13, 2010

Not a 'good' house wife.

The other day I was meeting with some other mothers in a new mums coffee group I'm in. Our babies are all about the same age, and we were discussing naps and how most of the babies in our group don't nap much during the day. Well I was saying my little guy usually has 3 to 4 hours of napping durning the day (usually 2 two hour blocks). One of the women commented "You must get lots of housework done then." At that moment I felt really out of the loop, not connected with these women, they made me feel young and almost irresponsible. I don't hold housework very high in my priorities. Usually when Gabe is sleeping that is when I relax, play on the computer ect. Now I'm trying to work myself up to hosting this coffee group in my unclean house. I mean it is pretty bad, I don't think we have vacuumed in like a month at least, I try and do the dishes once a day but that is really all I do except laundry, so the bathroom is in a pretty bad shape as well as the kitchen floor. I've never been a very tidy person in the first place, just ask my parents, they always said that tidyness would come in time, I just don't know if that day will ever come.
The sad part is I really should vacuum and dust more as Adam's allergies act up so much more when the house gets this bad. He has been very asthmatic over the last week and I keep thinking that if I just vacuumed it would probably help so much.
So the question is, how important is a tidy house? When it dirty too dirty? At what point will I start getting on top of this housework or at least care enough to make attempts as cleaning? This is why when people ask me how much harder it is to have a child and be a stay at home mum I get confused, it's because I now have so much more time on my hands. I used to have to work 40 hours a week, now I just am on call and half of the work is just fun, playing with Gabe. I guess it helps that he is a really easy baby, of course there are always really hard days but usually they are few and far between (to those non-mothers that would be like 1 a week ;-)).
Anyway that is my rant for the day back to my games... Maybe I'll do some dishes when Gabe wakes up, but while he is asleep, you will find me with my feet up, relaxing, I think mothers should do this more often and let the housework slide some (well unless your one of those people who can't relax when there are things that need to be done).


  1. Icertainly am not the best Sahm either, today I have kids outside happy and one asleep, so instead of tidying my living room I am having some me time, there is a new breastfeeding group on Mondays, if you want I could pick you up for it. Demelza

  2. Frankly I'm amazed, well done on starting a family and all. Never thought I'd see the day. Best of luck with your housekeeping.